Tyran Richard, Miss March Playmate and cover model for Shirley of Hollywood lingerie understands what a woman needs to feel sexy. She also understands that when a man is faced with the decision to buy his lady some sexy eveningwear he gets… one chance to make a good impression. One chance to show how he sees her. One chance to prove how well he knows her and one chance for all these blocks to drop neatly in place and create the opportunity for what the ancients called, coitus (that’s sex to you and me)!
A good portion of guys can throw a curve ball, speed shift a Shelby Cobra 427, and take down ten shots of Tequila without falling off a bar stool, but when it comes to picking out a lacy panty and bra set, most of us fail. Let’s face it, most men have absolutely no idea where to begin when it comes to the purchase of lingerie. Add to the lethal combination, miles of lace, strategically placed peek holes, 30 color variations, and another 300 styles to choose from, it’s easy to see why a guy would rather settle for the “Saturday night usual” than embark on something a bit more risqué in the bedroom.
And since we can’t all borrow Tyran Richard for a day to walk through the lingerie department and explain the proper etiquette of lingerie shopping; Have her try on a couple of your favorites and then take a few pictures as keepsakes. Instead, we have taken it upon ourselves to do most of that dirty work for you. We caught up with Tyran at the Shirley of Hollywood boutique in Los Angeles and asked her to give us a few pointers about how to select the proper lingerie, and she was more than happy to help.
First Impressions
The first thing that every man should do upon stepping into a lingerie store is, “Find someone close to the size of their lady, and relay that to the salesperson.” Be careful how you present such a finding, as “tits like hers” are rarely helpful, according to Tyran. If possible you may want to peak into your lady’s drawer for bra, panty, and dress sizes. Contrary to popular belief this is not inappropriate unless you either do not know the woman, or it ends with you trying on a few of her favorites (without her prior consent).
A man will want to get this initial step correct, Tyran cautions. “Buying her a size that is too big is a no, no– we do tend to get our feelings hurt and would rather it be form fitting than too big.” To help get this point across better, allow us to use this analogy: You wouldn’t stroll into an auto part store and ask for engine oil without having any idea what “weight” you needed and the same goes here. The wrong weight declaration could lead to an early engine seizure, and that means before you can even get your dipstick in the tube (forgive us, as we have probably over-analogied).
According to one past survey by Shirley of Hollywood, over 50% of men and women prefer black lingerie to their next favorite color, red. “Buying her fav’ color is a big bonus,” says Tyran. “But if you don’t know her favorite color, then stick to basic black because it’s always sexy!” In other words, color is a very personal choice as is style. To get the style right, it is helpful to know the traits that your lady likes to flaunt as well as hide. A stylish bustier looks flattering on just about anyone (hint-hint), and a bustier can be worn just as comfortably in the bedroom as it can in a nightclub (that means dual-purpose to those who live their life practical).
With style in mind, Tyran reassures, “Men shouldn’t be afraid to buy their lady lingerie that they like themselves, and not just what they think their lady will like.” Tyran recommends imagining what type of outfit would look best, such as a sheer baby doll, a classic bra, panty, and garters, or perhaps a simple silky boy shorts with a matching robe. “Lingerie is all about fantasy,” says Tyran “and being sexy and outrageous.” You may even want to try to shake things up with a fantasy role-playing outfit if you think she’d go for it.
With today’s complete lines of adventure bedroom wear you have the choices of naughty school girl, pirate vixen, or saloon dance hall hussy. However, if she loves her lingerie so much that you have a harder time getting her out of them, you might want to expand on your available opportunities with an ‘open’ cup and ‘open crotch’ style panty design. That means no more fiddling with bra hooks and dental floss waistbands. She gets to keep on her favorite outfit and you get access to all the goodies. That is what most relationship experts call compromise, men.
As we wrapped up the interview and headed on our way, Tyran stopped us with one final caution. “Always conduct a thorough investigation on the likes of the intended wearer before you purchase any lingerie. Put some careful thought into what the lingerie will mean and how it fits her personality and style.” And with that, keep in mind that if you are having a hard time with the prospects of shopping for lingerie for your woman, it just might mean that you do not know her as well as you thought you did. And if this is the case, you may also have to wonder if you should even be buying her lingerie at all. A single gift says a lot about you.
According to the above-mentioned survey by Shirley of Hollywood, 36% of women need at least six to nine months to be comfortable with receiving lingerie as a gift from their lover. It was only 19% that would go for it at about three months (and no they would not give out any of their phone numbers—we already asked).
If there is anything to take with you in this article, it is to first always ensure that your relationship has reached the lingerie surprise gift stage before investing in any of this advice. Second, to remember the wise words of Confucius, “A happy lady in lingerie always makes for a happy man… once the lady is out of the lingerie”—touché!
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