Urbasm’s resolutions for 2023 are to fortify our conviction, success, respect, conflict resolution, and true happiness. Which simply amounts to seven ticks off the below list:
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- Find Conviction– A man without conviction identifies himself by his profession. Having only his work to give him purpose, drives him to be a workaholic, leaving him tired and cynical at the end of the day. Don’t allow yourself to expend so much energy, that you have nothing left for the important people in your life.
- Use the KISS Principle– It is sometimes difficult to communicate with a partner, but despite whatever issues you have, one thing that can almost never go wrong is… a kiss. Kissing has the potential to stop arguments, create pair bonding, and (if done correctly) should leave your partner wanting more!
- Discover Your Source of Joy– From the time a man is born, he is told he must be good at sports, academics, and his career. And if you do all that, well, happiness should be close behind. Right? No, wrong. It is actually more satisfying to be the driving force behind another person’s success and happiness, than to base your own satisfaction on simply fortifying your own value and success.
- Earn True Influence Through Genuine Respect– A man creates distance and disappointment if he chooses to brood over unimportant details and rule his life via negativity. Common business tactics, including criticizing, lying, blaming, and threatening will only destroy the trust in every one of your relationships. Gaining respect is still best accomplished the old-fashioned way, by earning it with honesty and appreciation.
- Follow a Woman’s Guidance to Please Her– The missing rib of Adam is a controversial topic. And so many men follow their gut instinct on how to please a woman, which often involves building themselves up in her eyes to encourage her to be happy to have him in her life. But wait, let’s look back at resolution 3, which states that we should be more focused on Others’ happiness, and quite honestly the only way to make one particular woman happy, is to ask her straight up what she needs.
- Master the Art of Conflict Resolution– It is the little things in conversation that can make all the difference. Such as using the word “I,” instead of “you,” and focusing on listening to your opponent’s reasoning, rather than how to ‘win’ the argument. The only way to come out ahead in any conflict is to understand the process of a successful compromise, which is quite simply a solution that satisfies you both.
- Earn Others’ Respect Rather than Their Approval– Earning both respect and approval accomplishes the goal of making people happy. But if your goal is to ultimately do what is best for yourself and your own ideologies and goals, then self-made respect is really the only game in town. Listen to your inner voice for honest guidance, forgive your mistakes, take calculated risks, and always give yourself permission to succeed, even if it rubs against the well-intentioned advice of others.
About Dr. Eric J. Leech
Eric has written for over a decade. Then one day he created Urbasm.com, a site for every guy.
About Dr. Eric J. Leech