The end of date dilemma is a common pitfall for men. Do you play it cool, shake hands, hug, kiss, invite yourself in, set a second date, promise to call, tell her she missed the cut, or leave her guessing?
This is a big question and one that deserves a direct answer based on how the date went, how you feel, and where you’d like to go from there.
I Want to Head Directly to the Bedroom
They have done a lot of surveys on this topic, and while the verdict is still out, we can tell you that most women won’t hold it against you. In fact, according to a collection of American singles, it is even acceptable to have sex before a first date. So in other words, if the signs are there, and your mojo is on fire… go for it.
I Never Want to See Her Again
This is a likely scenario on a date and one that can be handled with either a gentleman’s class or playboys crass. For one, nobody likes to be left guessing, so one way or another you need to let her know approximately where she stands. We say approximately – because no woman wants to be told that she should just get a cat, and neither does she want to hear that you’ll be calling when you have absolutely no intention to. The best way to handle this date is to be kind but direct, as in, “It was lovely to have met. Have a good rest of your evening (day).” And that is that – move on to the next.
I Want to Rock Her World with a Kiss
Okay, so it was a pretty good date and you’d like to see if you could end it with some sparks – who could blame you. And this is where things get even easier. If you’re wondering about the signs to look for that she is ready for a kiss, it is practically impossible to tell. The safest route is just to tell her you had a great time and move in for the closure. You want to appear confident in your decision, know what you are doing, and be fine with whatever the outcome. According to most women, they will be flattered by the effort, but if she just isn’t feeling it, she may turn her cheek or pull you in for a hug. This is not a big deal, and it is also not a deal breaker. Some women just like to save the kiss for later, so don’t let that stop you from attempting to secure a second date (if you want to).
I Want to Tell Her I Love Her
The good news is that most women think that there is nothing hotter than a great guy who is into them. The bad news is that great guys rarely fall in love on the first date, or so she believes. So what you do is follow your heart, but only meet it half way. in other words, be direct and tell her what an awesome woman she is. Let her know that you had a fantastic time and would like to do it again. But leave it at that. There is no need to blabber on about how beautiful and mesmerizing she is, as it will only hurt your chances of ever receiving her love in return.
No Fireworks to Speak of, But I’m Still on the Fence
According to dating experts, the first date rarely expels fireworks, but that doesn’t mean that there won’t be some in the future. There is no need to commit yourself with a kiss or give false compliments, but if you are unsure about a date, go ahead and put fate on your side and ask for a second one. If worst comes to worse, it won’t pan out, but the practice will still do you some good.
About Dr. Eric J. Leech
Eric has written for over a decade. Then one day he created Urbasm.com, a site for every guy.
About Dr. Eric J. Leech