The best place to find a woman with similar values, is while you are out enjoying your favorite hobbies and interests. You might find this hard to believe, considering that life on this planet has become so over organized, alphabetized, and computerized. When you want to exercise, you go to a gym. If you want air, you go to an oxygen lounge. If you want to find a date, you hang out in a single’s bar or speed dating venue.
When you streamline love so that it fits into your busy schedule, you miss out on the opportunities that are all around you. I’m not saying that you should sit back and not have any initiative, but think about the places you’re currently looking, and consider the old adage, birds of a feather flock together.
Tip #1: There is No Shortcut
If you have the confidence to be your own happiness, you don’t need to fear being lonely. You are self-assured, self-sufficient, and would be a great catch for any woman. Studies show that men make the best choice in women, when they narrow down their choices to just a handful of hopefuls. Nevertheless, it seems that men are drawn to singles bars, which offer too many fish, with too little in common with most of them.
If you define happiness as being loved by a woman, then your ultimate happiness will always be in control of your women. Today, I invite you to take back that control, and discover that time is on your side when you’re spending it in great company… your own company!
While doing the things you enjoy, you’re reminding yourself that happiness can be achieved whether you’re alone or in a relationship. This is easy to forget, considering the advertising media is constantly bombarding your senses with images of sex, love, and romance. The simple fact is, it is better to spend your days doing what you like, then dangling in murky water, waiting for your tuna to arrive.
But there is a better way…
Tip #2: Overcome Your Fears
One of the biggest draws to a single’s bar, is the reduced fear of rejection. You may hesitate to approach a girl in a grocery store, because you’re risking the possibility that she’s attached, or even worse, of appearing desperate. It’s easier to approach a girl wearing an “I’m, available” tag at a speed dating event, then to strike up a conversation at the deli counter, casually offering your phone number, in case she has any other questions about macaroni and cheese.
What you have to consider, is a girl at a dating venue might be looking, but she may not necessarily be available (i.e. married, girlfriend, prefers cats, whatever). Finding love is more about overcoming your fears, then discovering the best place to meet a girl. You already know where to go. She’s waiting at your favorite BBQ pit, church, or golf course.
Tip #3: Get Out There!
Make a list of all the things you like to do, and then join a club, sign up to be a volunteer, or take up a leisure sport you’ve always wanted to try. Immerse yourself in the world around you, and the activities you enjoy. You will have a better chance of finding the woman of your dreams, fishing in your favorite goldfish bowl, then throwing your hook into the vast ocean. Don’t get me wrong, finding love takes effort; but probably not as much as you think.
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