A man likes to be the best man at a party, in bed, in the office and out on the field. He strives to do everything in his power to be the best he can be—and what does he get for it? Bad sex. This is the true story of how your stress is likely affecting your sex.
Stress is an important function in life. It was designed by your brain to prepare your physical body in the case of an emergency (life or death) situation. However, we live a far more civilized life today than hundreds of years ago, which means that the majority of our emergencies fall under the realm of being late for a meeting, lagging on a project that is due, or worrying about something you really have no control over. The end result of this stress is a rise in Endorphins, adrenaline and the stress hormone, Cortisol. And the problem is, you’re basically crying wolf to your body. You are getting it prepared for a physical battle, when there is no physical battle to be had.
What happens next?
Well, the Endorphins in your body are set up to dull the pain in case you need to fight through an injury. These also have the unfortunate affect of blocking the release of LMRH, which is a hormone important for testosterone production. And when your body is lacking in this important hormone, you will also be lacking in your sex drive. If these ‘stressors’ happen to be a regular occurrence in your life, your body will go into full-on survival mode and shut down a good portion of your sex hormone production in exchange for more stress hormones. When this happens your sex drive will really take a dive, along with a good portion of your energy (stamina), well-being and overall positive outlook on life.
So let’s get this straight. You are stressing yourself every day to be the best man you can be, yet you are actually diminishing your capabilities—and making it that much harder to do the things you want to do, like make good love to a beautiful woman. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Two Powerful Tips to Turn the Stress in Your Life into the Inspiration to Conquer and Prevail
Tip 1: Nix Your Bad Habits
Do you know how the majority of men deal with stress? They drown in in a sea of addiction, including alcohol and junk food. The outcome of these addictions is only more stress (obviously). A better option is to take up a regular workout routine and utilize some fast relaxation techniques. And the good news is, if you workout hard enough, you can actually replace a good portion of the testosterone you lost from all that previous stressing.
Tip 2: Don’t Be Guilty of Approval Addiction
Addiction usually brings to mind sex, drugs and rock and roll, but there is another addiction that a lot of successful men don’t even know they have—called approval addiction. The addiction of needing to be approved of by your peers, boss and loved ones can cause you to overwork, stress and ultimately wear you out (until you eventually fail). There is nothing wrong with saying no when it is a request that you really don’t have time for. You know the old saying, ‘live to fight another day’—and yes, stress can kill you if you let it go on long enough.
Men, if your success and sex life is important to you, never compromise it by falling for the oldest coping technique in the book—otherwise known as stress.
About Dr. Eric J. Leech
Eric has written for over a decade. Then one day he created Urbasm.com, a site for every guy.
About Dr. Eric J. Leech