The success of every relationship is the direct result of the actions you take. By perfecting your approach, you can increase the likelihood of fostering a successful partnership. Here are the do’s and don’ts of every great relationship.
1. Do Be Curious
You begin every relationship with a certain “awe” factor and interest level. Over time, you probably become bored, and lose interest in your partner. By remaining curious, you give women a chance to surprise you with their constant growth and new ideas. Time passes too quickly, and if you fail to make daily weather checks with what’s going on in your girl’s life, you risk becoming a stranger and losing touch with your intimate connection.
2. Don’t Argue From the Heart
We’re often told to follow our heart, but arguing is one of those things that should be an exception to the rule. Arguing can arouse a fight or flight reaction, leading to hurtful words and actions. At the beginning of every argument, take 10 seconds to let your initial reaction subside, and allow your rational thought to kick in. Our heart knows no rules about a debate, but our brain can learn to listen, be respectful, ask questions, and compromise when appropriate and necessary.
3. Do Talk Sexy, Even When You Can’t Act It
A lot of relationships could be saved if couples would talk sexy to each other, even when they weren’t in the mood to be sexy. One of the biggest complaints in relationships today by guys, is not enough sex, For the women, it is not having enough time and energy to do it. What you can do in between the act, is talk sexy to your girl, reminding her how much you’re attracted to her, and what you plan on doing to her later in the week. A little randy talk will go a long way in any sex-starved relationship.
4. Don’t Create Obstacles From Your Own Unhappiness
How many times have you thought to yourself, If only I had (blank)… I’d be happy. Then, when (blank) happens… you’re still not happy. People wait for certain moments to be happy, only to create new obstacles once they do. This is a never-ending trail of disappointment, where you create the excuse of a better job, lower body weight, or a new home/car, as reasons why they’re not satisfied with life. In reality, if you can’t find happiness where you are now, you never will. Happiness comes from the inside, not from outside accomplishments and worthless trinkets. Not only will you benefit from working to become a happier person, but your relationships will too!
5. Do Say the Words, ‘I Love You,” Often and Emphatically
The older a relationship grows, the more guys think they no longer need to remind their partner how much they love her. However, these words are so much more than a regurgitated Valentine’s Day phrase. It is a simple promise, that the sun will shine brighter. The rain clouds will disappear quicker, and your accomplishments will taste a bit sweeter every time she is around. If you’re afraid the words will lose their meaning with their constant use, remember to think of a different reason why you love your partner each time you say them, and they will never get old.
6. Don’t Make Hasty Decisions About Your Relationships
Over 85 percent of couples that choose to stay together and work out their problems, emerge happier, stronger, and more in love than ever. The problem with divorce/breakups is they are easily dissolved, but not often carefully thought out. Experts say somewhere around half of all divorces could be vanquished, just by giving couples a chance to cool down and think about what they’re doing. A relationship becomes stronger the more obstacles it has to overcome. If you approach each problem with a quick escape route, how can you expect to build the kind of partnership that will endure a lifetime?
7. Do Become a Blessing to Everyone in Your Life
If you lost a dollar each time you preyed for a blessing, versus earning a dollar for thinking you were a blessing, you’d be pretty poor. True satisfaction in relationships comes from having relevance, purpose, and impact. Most guys are taught that good things come to those who work hard. However, better things come to those who work to be a blessing in other people’s lives. Being a blessing liberates you from self focus, giving you an immediate sense of accomplishment. Even if you don’t believe you’re the master of your own destination, you most certainly are a master of your partner’s satisfaction and happiness.
That’s all I got, guys. Now, make it happen…
About Dr. Eric J. Leech
Eric has written for over a decade. Then one day he created Urbasm.com, a site for every guy.
About Dr. Eric J. Leech