A lot has been said about rekindling the romance in your relationship. However, with the in-depth coverage of the topic in just about every woman’s magazine on the planet, you begin to get the feeling that it may not be as easy as you thought. Studies suggest that behind most every boring relationship are two people waiting for the other person to take the necessary steps to make things exciting.
You could always wait around for your partner to make the first move, or you could kick start your relationship yourself. A good relationship may take patience, however, a great one takes some work. The good news is that the effort involved becomes much easier once it begins to pay-off, and in under most circumstances, it will. Every adventure must begin with that first step, and it only takes one spark to start a fire (as Bruce Springsteen once said). With this in mind, here a few tips to heat up a lukewarm relationship.
Anytime Sex-
Schedules are an important part of our lives. They keep us on track, and often help us accomplish twice as much in a day. When it comes to intimacy, date and sex night has become a must-have addition to your schedule, as it helps couples maintain their adult connection. However, every now and then it will help to shake up the calendar by introducing an impromptu sex session in the morning or afternoon, when your partner least expects it.
Open up the House-
What makes a vacation so great? Part of it is getting away from the usual stuff, and experiencing something new. We often consider anything “new” with being exciting, which means you can take your usual Saturday night, introduce it to a new setting, and give it a fresh spin. We’re talking about sex in the closet, attic, laundry room, stairway, or anywhere else you can squeeze two bodies. When it comes to creating an environment for romance, your creativity is your greatest limitation.
Dress for Success-
Stepping away from the bedroom can make things exciting, but so can stepping away from your everyday persona for an evening. This is the great thing about role-play, as it allows you to explore new sensations and experiences by giving you the advantage of becoming someone else. Studies show that we all fantasize in the bedroom, and it is actually a healthy part of a satisfying sex life. Visual aids may help you get into character, and you just may find a side of your girlfriend that you never knew existed.
Don’t Dress At All-
Sometimes to create a spark you have to strip everything out of the everyday, and spend the morning or afternoon naked with your lover. While you’re experiencing a “Naked Day,” a couple things will happen. One, you will get used to being nude around each other, which is sometimes the cause of embarrassing or uncomfortable sex. Two, the visual reminder is often enough to break through the barriers of everyday stress, and find a common ground in making each other a tall glass of whoopee.
About Dr. Eric J. Leech
Eric has written for over a decade. Then one day he created Urbasm.com, a site for every guy.
About Dr. Eric J. Leech